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MAVEN Says Goodbye

For almost ten years Next Door Solutions to Domestic Violence has offered older adults in our community the MAVEN program, Mature Alternatives for Violent Environments Now.  With this program we have reached out to and helped over 745 women over the age of 50 in the last five years.  The MAVEN program has offered one-on-one counseling and case management, a support group, home visits and field trips, as well as outreach and education to community organizations.

In addition, collaborative efforts between MAVEN and various community agencies have increased awareness about domestic violence, elder abuse, and the resources available for individuals.  Through the MAVEN support group and individual counseling, many women have developed the necessary coping skills and support systems in order to continue to thrive.

Therefore, it is with great sadness that we have to inform you that the MAVEN program will end as of June 1st, 2011 due to a loss of integral grant funding.  Like many community-based organizations, Next Door has not been able to weather the current economic difficulties without some losses to its programs.  Even so, Next Door will continue to offer services for mature adults by providing the following:

  • 24 hour crisis intervention hotline available for victims of domestic violence, their relatives and adults that interact with victims.  Our hotline number is (408) 279-2962.
  • 24-hour Emergency Shelter available for victims of domestic violence.  Please call (408) 279-2962 for more information.
  • Walk-in emergency services Monday through Friday, from 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. at our community office.  Our address is 234 E. Gish Road. Suite 200, San Jose, 95112.
  • Individual Advocacy services available by appointment at our community office.  Please call (408)501-7550.
  • Legal support (e.g. restraining orders, court accompaniment, etc.).  Please call (408) 501-7550 for an appointment to receive these services.
  • Support groups Monday and Tuesday nights from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.  Spanish language support groups are available.  Support groups take place at Next Door’s community office and other locations in the community.
  • Self Sufficiency workshops Wednesday nights from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m..
  • Yoga and Quilting classes are offered on Wednesday nights from 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.

As always, please feel free to call our community office for more information regarding all the services and programs Next Door provides.  Our telephone number is (408) 501-7550.  Our web address is www.nextdoor.org.

We hope that the Santa Clara County community will continue to support Next Door by providing assistance for older adult victims of domestic violence.  We are grateful for your efforts and we thank you for your assistance in ending domestic violence in the moment and for all time.

New Support Group Offered

In this support group, you will learn how to

  • Communicate effectively
  • Create and participate in healthy relationships
  • Recognize abusive behaviors
  • Recognize the signs of trauma in yourself and your children
  • Build self-acceptance and self-confidence
  • Develop a safety plan
  • Create a better life for you and your family
  • Gain value from the experiences of other women who are handling intimate partner issues similar to your own

Location:  Palo Alto Medical Foundation

701, East El Camino Real

Mountain View, CA-94040

Fee:  No Fee. Donations are welcome

Dates: Weekly on Saturdays, ongoing. Starts May 21, 2011

Time:  2.00pm-4.00pm

Facilitator:   Nicole Valentine, MFT

To participate in the group or for more information, please call Aparna Dhoraje, with Next Door Soltutions : 408-501-7546.

 

 

 

 

Domestic Violence Was The Cause of SJSU Murders

The recent murder-suicide at San Jose State was a case of domestic violence.  Here is the story as reported by ABC7 in San Francisco, which includes an interview with Next Door’s Patty Bennett:

 

And here is the story as reported by NBC Bay Area, which includes an interview with Next Door’s Kathleen Krenek:

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Rape is Rape. Period.

Slut.

Yes. You read that correctly.

Slut.

Recently, the founders of mass global protests explained just how defeating and painfully segregating that word can be. Luckily, they are also attempting to re-define it:

Historically, the term “slut” has carried a predominantly negative connotation. Aimed at those who are sexually promiscuous, be it for work or pleasure, it has primarily been women who have suffered under the burden of this label. And whether dished out as a serious indictment of one’s character or merely as a flippant insult, the intent behind the word is always to wound, so we’re taking it back. “Slut” is being re-appropriated. We are tired of being oppressed by slut-shaming; of being judged by our sexuality and feeling unsafe as a result.

To drive the point of how disconnected many in society are from the harms of derogatory terms like this, we need look no further than our neighbors to the north.  In January of 2011, a Canadian police officer was speaking to University students about community safety following a series of sexual assaults on campus. His advice to young women? If they didn’t want to get raped, they should just “avoid dressing like sluts”.

Oh – ok. So if I don’t dress like a slut, I won’t be raped or assaulted.

Check.

While this is undoubtedly an ignorant and uninformed thing for a member of the law enforcement community to say, the fact of the matter is that he is not the only person who sincerely believes that to be true. Had it been only one man’s mistake, the reaction that followed wouldn’t have united thousands of women across the globe as they participate in protests now known as “SlutWalks”.

Despite the fact that the marches occur on different continents, participants share one very important conviction: sluts don’t cause rape, rapists do and no woman deserves to be assaulted, regardless of what she is wearing. A comment like the police officer’s is far too common and reflects the beliefs of many. It has been demonstrated time and time again that our first reaction is to blame the victim (remember this story?) rather than the perpetrator themselves.

Critics of the protests have had a difficult time looking past the word “slut” and don’t understand how it can be used as a tool of empowerment. The word slut can be difficult to embrace for this purpose, but proponents of the walks are trying.

Whatever your view of using the word to promote these protests, we can all agree that the word is an inappropriate excuse for rape and only attempts to validate society’s embarrassing tradition of victim blaming.

The bottom line is that no means no. No woman should ever be asked what she was wearing or how she was acting if she reports being on the receiving end of sexual assault.

Ever.

Would you participate in a SlutWalk if one ever occurred near you? Do you appreciate the organizer’s use of the word or is it unnecessarily offensive?

We’d like to hear from you.

Next Door Thanks the Association of Silicon Valley Brokers

 

ASVB President, Eric Fox, with Next Door's Executive Director Kathleen Krenek

This week, Next Door had the honor of being the recipient of a wonderful gift given by the Association of Silicon Valley Brokers. ASVB has supported Next Door for nearly a decade and their continued generosity has allowed us to serve our clients in the very best way possible. Thank you from all of us at Next Door!

Eric Fox, Kathleen Krenek and Next Door staff

 

 

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